Lixin hello! I sat the selective entry exam as well, and was rejected. Honestly, I never really wanted to get in, I mostly did it to satisfy my parents. But even then, I was slightly upset because my results werenât terrible, it just wasnât good enough compared to other people. I guess it was that feeling of thinking youâre not as good as other people, and therefore will never amount to anything.
I think the biggest thing Iâve realised since then is that your school doesnât dictate how well youâll do in VCE, and how successful youâll be in life. In 20 years people wonât be saying âhaha, remember when you didnât get into Nossalâ or whatever. There are plenty of students who go to poorly ranked public schools and get high 90 ATARs. And that was because they put in the effort to get the results that they wanted/needed.
As for dealing with losses in general, I think that you should remember why youâre doing this in the first place. Ideally it wouldnât be something superficial like âI wanna be richâ, but if thatâs what motivates you then go for it. Find what you really want out of life, and stick to it. Sometimes youâll realise maybe that isnât academic or school related, and if anything that just helps you to know what you really value in life. Thereâs no point in doing something without knowing why youâre doing it. (Whether it be for amusement, or to get a good grade, etc)
And if your motivation comes from the fact that you failed to get into that selective school, then be petty lol, let that be your motivation. Personally, mine stems from the fact that Iâve had family members assume that Iâll never amount to anything, and I wanna prove them wrong.
